Do you have children? When are you planning on having children? — These are the questions that follow the words “I’m getting married” and “This is my husband”. I understand that most women have a mental plan that involves offspring, but I don’t have this desire for babies and I don’t think this makes me a bad person. Personally, I think it’s rather intelligent that I’m not bringing a child in to this world just because someone else thinks that I should.
I am writing this to help people better understand that being childless isn’t a criminal act…we don’t dislike your children, we don’t begrudge you the joy you share with your children, we don’t compare our cats to your kids (I get that it’s different) and we would like to ask for the same respect in return.
Some will tell you it’s not a selfish choice, but that’s a lie…it is selfish in many ways. I enjoy doing what I want, when I want. I enjoy traveling unencumbered…I enjoy sleeping through the night. I enjoy not talking about poop, pee, and throw up…I don’t even talk about my cats doing that and it happens a lot!
These are our cats, the closest we may have to children…they are spoiled and loving…they don’t require midnight feedings and I can leave them at home. These are my current qualifications for children. So don’t pity our choices, don’t judge our choices…but do allow us to enjoy your family and to be a part of your happy circle.All that being said I have stopped using the word “never” in relation to children. I may change my mind in a few years and so be it…who knows what will happen. What I do know is that we shouldn’t be judged for this or lose friends because they suddenly do have children. I’m perfectly happy for them…my choices have never been inflicted upon them, clearly or they would all be running marathons.
Did you or do you feel pressure to have children? Do you feel like people who don’t are making a mistake?
I am grateful for Photoshop
I am grateful for my Dyson
I am grateful for free furnace filters
I am grateful for a patient husband
I am grateful for good chats with mom